Most of us have experienced having a coach in our life.
Last November 6, 2015, I had the chance to attend the 1st ICF Philippines International Coaching Summit and I can say that it is an eye-opener for me because it made me understand better the potential role of a coach in my life.
I have attended many local and International events this year, and the coaching summit does not just fill my head with knowledge… the topics also resonated in my heart.
To have more recollection of the 1st ICF Philippines International Coaching Summit, I took down notes.
– There are many ways to coach. Coaches’ tailor fit their approach to become effective.
– The best leaders and coaches can make their coachees unsure of themselves. Learning starts when the coachee starts questioning himself/herself because learning occurs in the moment of uncertainty.
– Coaches help coachee remove their veil to let them see the whole world. They make them see the road ahead differently.
– Aha moments are created within the discomfort zone – coaches create it in order for a coachee to make a breakthrough.
– Coaches don’t tell their coachee what to do. Coaches are just facilitators, they make their clients think clearly.
– Coaches must not inject fear to his/her coachee because fear is not an adaptive behavior. They will not learn faster with fear.
David B. Peterson
– Leadership is needed when the team is facing a difficult situation. When a leader is faced in a crucial situation, this is where he/she needs a coach.
– Leaders need to expose themselves intentionally to a vulnerable situation where the discomfort zone is created in order for them to grow.
– When facing two situations, choose the path that you have not taken before.
– We all need to learn new ways to learn different things faster and better.
Breakout Session 1 Panelist: Chandra Anamirtham, Gregorio S. Navarro, Gary De Ocampo, Francis S. Del Val
– New leaders in the organization need coaches especially if they feel that they do not have enough experience to do the new job. Coaching builds the gap between new leaders and their new roles.
– If you ask help from a coach, you will open your vulnerability because you have to let him/her into your life.
– You will know that you met the right coach if he/she can bring the best in you.
– When looking for a coach, always ask what is his/her training to be sure that he/she is really capable of coaching. Check also if the coach is a member of a coaching group or Federation like ICF.
– The work of a coach is to challenge people to look for different possibilities.
– It is important that coaches ask the right questions to let their coachee think and process the situation themselves and for them to arrive at their own solutions.
– The traits of a resilient leader / coach are the following: Adaptability, Agility, “Laugh” ability (sense of humor) and Alignment.
– All of us have a different viewing point; we must have a viewpoint to see more clearly.
-The core of the word heart is ear. Coaches should listen to what their coachee is telling them to understand the situation better.
– Celebrate small wins to increase the motivation. A mile takes a while and an inch is a cinch.
What strikes me the most is the phrase said by Eileen McDargh “If you lost your why, you lost your way”.
It touched my heart when Ms. McDargh told the audience the story of her mom who served as one of the female pilots during World War II (they are in charge of checking and making airplanes ready for battle). Those female pilots did not have the same privilege as compared to male. But why did they go on? It was because of their “Why”. Their reason to go on is huge enough to take all the risk.
If you still don’t know your “Why”, and you are looking for a coach to help you, I suggest that you check the International Coaching Federation through their website http://www.coachfederation.org/.